I’m Miharu. My life with my husband, Tomoya, changed overnight when our daughter, Cheri, was born six months ago. Cheri is adorable, but she cries constantly, which is totally draining. It’d be one thing if Tomoya helped out, but he’s obsessed with his “self-care” routine, from skincare to daily workouts. One time, I asked him to watch her so I could shower, only to find him doing stretches while Cheri was just crying on the floor. I was speechless.
Tomoya goes to the salon whenever he wants, takes long showers every day, and never skips his skincare routine. He jogs for an hour every night after work and plays futsal on the weekends. I get that these things are important to him—I’ve known about his “standards” since we were dating. But shouldn’t your priorities change once you have someone to protect? Every time I try to speak up, he just shuts me down and insists on having his way. His “self-care” is built entirely on my sacrifice. I’m the only one constantly compromising, and I feel like I’m about to snap.