I (Kyoko) am a single mother raising two sons, Taro (8) and Jiro (5). Since my second divorce, I moved near my parents’ house. My boys are energetic and have energy to burn, so I used to appreciate meeting up with my parents and my brother’s family about once a month, where my brother would help keep them entertained. However, Ayano, my brother’s wife, finally reached her breaking point. She asked why I expected her family to make sacrifices for me while I avoided dealing with my own ex-husbands.
I realize now how incredibly shallow I’ve been. I was so used to having everyone support me after my divorce that I took it all for granted. I should have stood on my own two feet with more resolve to support my children. I also should have made it clear to my sons that even though their father and I aren’t a couple anymore, we are still their parents.
I’ve reached out to my lawyer again to officially arrange visitation with their father. Instead of putting my own feelings first—like how much I didn’t want to deal with my exes—I want to fulfill my responsibilities as a parent properly for the sake of my children.