My name is Maki (26). I’m single. I lost my parents before I turned 20, and after that I lived at my family home with my older brother (33) and his family. But when I started dating my boyfriend, Tsubasa (26), I moved out and began living on my own. Lately it’s more like a casual live-in situation. We’ve promised to get married once we’ve saved enough money, so right now we’re being careful with our spending.
When I take food or daily necessities from my family home, Tsubasa says he should thank them or pay them back. But that completely defeats the point of saving money, doesn’t it? His way of thinking feels a little naive, and that worries me.
Tsubasa is the third son in his family. His oldest brother is married, has lots of kids, and lives with their parents, so Tsubasa says he feels awkward and can’t bring anything back from his family home. But the situation is the same as with my brother, right? If you hold back like that, you’ll never save anything. If he could just bring home something, anything, it would really help our budget.
That’s what I was thinking—so when Tsubasa actually scolded me instead, I got really annoyed. They say it’s okay to take things, so I do. I honestly don’t see what the problem is.